Parents of Former RC Member – Prisoner of the Kingdom

Testimony Regarding Our Daughter’s Involvement in Regnum Christi


By Dilbert


I am a semi retired professional person living on the West Coast. Fourteen years ago, our 27 year old daughter Anne (not her real name) had completed a master’s degree in theology and was working to pay off her student loans. She had been a very bright student and was offered several promotions at her place of work. They offered to send her on a course to develop a career in senior management. She had not intended to develop such a career but realized she was at a crossroads because she had always felt a call to serve God as a religious. She decided to visit some convents in the USA and discern what God was calling her to do.

After trying several places she let us know that she had found a place where she felt right at home. Shortly after she arrived in Rhode Island she had decided to enter a “formation program� with Regnum Christi. We had never heard of this group but Anne was very excited about it. The people there were young, enthusiastic and oh so happy and they were rapidly growing in numbers. She told us that she would have very limited contact with us during her formation period. This rang a warning bell but we trusted her judgement. We tried to find out more about Regnum Christi and found this somewhat frustrating. Anne assured us that they were associated with an order of Catholic priests and everything they did was fully in accordance with the Vatican and they were loyal to the Pope.

After only five months, Anne told us she had made her solemn promises of poverty chastity and obedience. We were very surprised and disappointed that she had done this without telling us and without inviting us to come. She assured us that she had not made vows in the same sense that a nun would make. She had made promises and although she fully intended to keep them, she was still a lay person and the promises were not as binding as religious vows would be. We had many questions and received few answers. Finally, my wife and I went to Rhode Island to see for ourselves. We were amazed to see so many beautiful, bright, enthusiastic young women who were willing to dedicate themselves to God’s service. These young ladies all seemed to be very happy, intelligent, well spoken and friendly. Anne was bubbly, as if she were on a honeymoon. This experience disarmed us. We met some of the leaders and they were very pleasant and articulate. It seemed too good to be true for Anne. We came away thinking that Anne had found the right place for her. We might not agree with their conservativeness and all the constraints but how could we argue about it when she seemed so happy.

We noticed that she mentioned a lot about her founder and how fortunate they were that he was still alive. Her excessive devotion to him disturbed us. It continued to bother us that we still could not seem to find out much about what Regnum Christi actually did. We asked for a brochure or book that would tell us something about what they did. Anne was somewhat vague about this and this surprised us because she was normally very communicative. But she seemed to be so happy. In the earlier days, when we asked Anne questions, even ordinary ones out of interest or curiosity she would start to cry. She used to pray the rosary with us regularly but would not do this any more. (She does now years later on our rare occasions together). She would go off by herself to pray her special prayers and would not show us her prayer book. Once she started to show it to me then changed her mind and ran off to her room with it.

As time went by we became increasingly frustrated about the secrecy and the oppressive rules, such as the extremely limited contact. The 2 day visits home were terrible for us (and still are). We had no say regarding the timing even though we had to pay all her travel costs. She would come home exhausted by the jet lag and have to spend much of the two days in private prayer and of course daily Mass. We made the most of this but became increasingly disturbed about her situation. We found that the solemn promises were extremely binding on those who made them. Several years went by and we became more and more frustrated trying to find out who Regnum Christi were, what their real charisms were and why they imposed such restrictive rules. Did they exist for evangelization or teaching or missionary work? In my opinion they are very weak in all these areas. Evangelization = recruiting selected young people. Teaching = recruiting selected young people and missionary work = recruiting selected young people. My wife and I and our family members have had experience in all three of these areas. My wife and I were trained in the CETM program developed in Steubenville. We spent some time in a formerly communist country as missionaries in a Catholic School teaching English in 1998. We were excited when we heard that some women from Regnum Christi were coming there. We were expecting to see young evangelists in action. However, we were told by our local contact (a man I would trust my life with) that he believed the women who came from Regnum Christi were not there to spread the good news about Jesus. They were there to recruit selected young women away from them. He was not impressed at all with Regnum Christi and felt they were self serving. This made us wary. When we mentioned this to Anne she laughed and said that the people there are very suspicious by nature and not to take such remarks seriously.

When we returned home we started researching and discovered that their founder had a reputation for sexually abusing young boys and using drugs. At this stage we started to develop grave doubts about Regnum Christi and Anne’s situation. We were warned about Regnum Christi being a cult by a Catholic nun (a close family member).

We started to check the Internet and found information that matched our own experiences and heightened our fears. The Legionaries and Regnum Christi were identified as cults by several experts. When we found the Regain site and Ex Legionaries discussion group we obtained information from former members of the Legionaries and Regnum Christi that provided evidence that both these groups were very cult like. The reasons given matched our own observations – the secrecy, the isolation, the emphasis on the charismatic leader, the extreme control over all aspects of one’s life, e.g. total lack of free time, no money, no health insurance, no provision for retirement, the elite attitudes, not being able to ever be on one’s own (buddy system), the monitoring of phone calls and opening all her mail before receiving it and the over emphasis on recruiting and on money. We discovered that Anne was overly dependant on her director for virtually everything that she does from when to get up in the morning, what clothes to wear, when to exercise, when and what to eat, who to talk to and who not to talk to. And Anne was obliged to go regularly to a superior for spiritual direction (contrary to Canon Law). We were able to verify that most of the things we read on a number of websites matched our own experience. This gave us more confidence in the testimonies from past members for the things we could not verify. Anne continued to tell us that “everything they did was approved by the Pope�. Pope John Paul II did approve their constitution but we doubted that he would approve their methods.

We discovered that Anne had made two additional solemn promises that she had not ever mentioned – “secret� ones to never seek higher offices in her movement and to never criticize any of her superiors. The existence of these promises and the secrecy about them really disturbed us. In 2006, I did some more research and got several books on mind control. The best one I could find was written by Steve Hassan, a former Moonie, who is a qualified counselor and an expert on mind control and cults. We arranged for family members to have a conference call with Steve Hassan and learned a lot. Steve said that when he identifies a group as a cult he does this based mainly on whether they use mind control or not. The actual beliefs are immaterial. When we went through his checklist on control of Behaviour, Information, Thoughts and Emotions (BITE model) we realized that Regnum Christi was using every method of mind control that Steve identified. There was almost a perfect match between Steve Hassan’s checklist and Regnum Christi policies, rules and practices. Everything started to make sense. Regnum Christi could have valid Catholic theology but be a self serving cult, using the “free labour� of the devoted followers by applying mind control techniques. After our communication with Steve, we felt sure that Anne was and is in a cult and she and the other consecrated women are subjected to conformity through mind control.

It had always bothered me that Anne always referred to her founder as “Nuestro Padre�, which means “Our Father� in Spanish. I asked Anne how she differentiated between the “Our Father� (God the Father) when she regularly prayed the “Our Father� and “Our Father� meaning Father Maciel. Anne giggled and said she had never thought about this. This was one of the changes that we had noticed with Anne since she had joined Regnum Christi. As a 40 year old woman she giggled in the same way that a self conscious teenager might do. There were other negative changes. Anne used to have a wonderful sense of humour. It was rare in recent years that we noticed her use this any more. One thing that really bothered us was that she has become noticeably deceptive at times. She had never been that way previously. At times she has become quite child like in her way of expressing herself. Anne used to love to debate things and had a very quick mind. However, whenever we raised any issues regarding the cult like nature of Regnum Christi or the mind control or anything about her founder, she just looked somber and gave no response to the issues we raised. She would simply say that it hurt her when we say anything negative about her beloved movement and founder. Anne had been very creative and an excellent writer. I believe that she has increasingly lost her ability to write creatively.

Here is what I have come to believe about my daughter’s life over the last 14 years.
I believe that Anne has almost a total lack of free will. She has absolutely zero income and makes no significant decisions about her life.
I believe that she has almost no human rights. She lives under her solemn promise of obedience, yet has none of the protections from the Church that a religious person would have.

Her every need must come through permission from her superiors.

She idolizes her founder, Father Marcial Maciel and believes him to be a living saint, refusing to believe the obvious reasons behind the removal of his privileges to practice his priesthood publicly and to spend his remaining life in quiet repentance.
The information she receives is tightly controlled. Anne is only allowed to read books that her director allows her to read (she is 41 years old and well educated). She has not been allowed to watch television other than what she is allowed to watch by her superiors.

Anne has to follow so many rules that cover even trivial details in her life.

Anne has no health insurance and if she is sick she must depend on a decision by her superiors about how to deal with any medical care. The superiors have all the power. Anne has none and she has made solemn promises to never criticize any other superior in her movement and to obey everything that they direct her to do.
Anne is allowed almost no contact with anyone outside of her group except in situations related to her duties.

I have read that the consecrated women are not allowed to ever have a close friend either inside or outside their own group. I found this hard to believe but she has never in 14 years mentioned about having a specific close friend. She always refers to the other consecrated women as “companions�.

We do not believe that the “happiness� we observed among Anne and her companions was all genuine. We have been read that they are instructed to always appear happy in front of their families and never to “burden� them with any difficulties. This is verified in the documents publicized by Regain and which the Legionaries claim are proprietary.

In this information age, Anne has not been allowed to have free access to the Internet. She cannot have her own e-mail address. If we wish to email her it has to be sent to her superior who intercepts all information between us.

My wife and I are active in prison ministry in a maximum security federal prison. There are all the high fences, razor wire, locking gates, guards and security cameras everywhere. But I believe that the inmates there have a lot more freedom than the consecrated women in Regnum Christi do. The men can have friends. They can talk to whoever they want at times of their choosing. They can decide how to spend their spare time – watching TV, playing sports, doing crafts or studying or taking part in group activities. They can read whatever books they wish to. They can earn more freedom and most have some hope of being released someday. Some can have overnight family visits. They can disagree with other people. Of course they have strict rules but there are good reasons for their rules.

I grieve for the loss of our only daughter and I feel extremely let down by the Catholic Church to which I have devoted much of my life. Twice I have written to the Vatican about Anne’s plight and both times received a response from a strong supporter of the Legionaries and their founder. My wife and I have attended presentations given by priests about cults and never dreamed that we would find one embedded in a prominent position in the Catholic Church. When Pope Benedict XVI carried out an investigation into the many complaints of sexual abuse by Marciel Maciel, I felt great hope that there would be some justice and that the Church would realize what was going on. Although Father Maciel was disciplined there was not a clear cut statement from the Vatican. A few relatively minor changes are being implemented but the victimization, emotional damage (from mind control and dehumanization) continues with no clear action by the Church. In my opinion, my daughter and the other consecrated women live in a form of slavery that should not be permitted anywhere but especially not within the Church. It is no longer a joy when Anne comes home to make her annual two day visits. This is not enough time to keep up a meaningful relationship. She refuses to discuss anything about her movement with me. There is no longer a familial closeness. We know that whatever we say to her will be reported back to her superiors and this creates a wall of distrust between us and her. I often feel that she is no longer an effective member of our family because we no longer know her as she is today and she doesn’t really know us in a close relationship. She is unavailable to us in a meaningful way and there is no apparent reason for her separation. She does not know her young nieces and nephews. There is almost no close communication with her siblings. How could there be?

We can write her once a month but we are always aware that her letters will be read by her superiors first and she will receive all her letters opened. We can phone her once a month and we do but again, we are always aware that “they� are monitoring us and that Anne has to tell all to her superior. This creates distrust and there are other barriers in all of our communication with her.

One concern haunts me. Anne joined up after only a few months of “formation�. I know now that the “formation� involved mind control – the isolation, control of her basic needs, the “love bombing� and other techniques referred to above. Had she been in a free environment it would have been too short a time to make such a major decision for a life long commitment. In a cult environment I do not believe that her decision was one made with her free will. Similarly, I do not believe that her decision to remain is based on her free will. I feel that she is a prisoner.


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